Monday, February 16, 2009

My Love Tank

Speaking of Valentines Day and love and all that other mushy stuff, here's my next random fact. 

Random #7 - My love language is Quality Time.  

Gary Chapman wrote a book entitled The Five Love Languages, with the intention of helping people clarify what it is that makes them feel loved.  In his words, he explains that we all have a "love tank," which serves a similar purpose to our souls as the gas tank does to the car.  When our love tank is full, we are better able to love others and run effective and healthy lives.  However, when our love tank is empty, it becomes much more difficult.  And your love tank becomes full when someone loves you according to your love language.  Want to know the irony in the way we love?  We typically love people the way that we want to be loved.  I give Jamie lots of quality time, when that's not what makes him feel the most loved. 

Without reading the book, the above paragraph is super cheesy.  But once you process it and try to make sense of it all, it's brilliant.  Here's a quick run-through (you can find more in depth here) of the five love languages that he proposes - 

Words of Affirmation - I feel especially loved when people express how grateful they are for me, and for the simple, everyday things I do.
Quality Time - I feel especially loved when a person gives me undivided attention and spends time with me alone.  
Receiving Gifts - I feel especially loved by someone who brings me gifts and other tangible expressions of love. 
Acts of Service - I feel especially loved when someone pitches in to help me, perhaps by running errands or taking on household chores. 
Physical Touch - I feel especially loved when a person expresses feelings for me through physical contact.

 While I claim to have all of the love languages (:, the truth is that my love tank can be filled pretty easily if you'll just sit and have a cup of coffee and talk about life with me.